The Conversation We Weren’t Ready to Have… But Had Anyway
Grief, therapy, resilience, and the secrets we don’t admit — even to ourselves.
This aftershow hits deeper than anyone expected.
It opens with Justin’s wild story about a man who dug an entire underground temple system under a mountain — by himself — because a vision told him to. A surreal, spiritual, nearly supernatural experience that ends with police crying in awe and Justin being choked by a “future spirit” the night COVID hit. It’s bizarre, fascinating, and completely NSCB.
But then the conversation shifts.
Colm talks honestly about burying his wife just two months ago — and how impossible it feels to “heal” when time hasn’t even begun to make sense yet. Justin pushes back, exploring how grief forces us to confront not only loss, but every unresolved bruise underneath it. Rebecca balances both worlds, trying to make sense of the emotional chaos while grounding the conversation in compassion and common sense.
From there, the episode expands into:
• Therapy — does it actually help, or is it just talking in circles?
Colm questions its value. Justin argues it saved his life. The contrast is powerful.
• The tin-can theory of life.
Justin explains how unresolved trauma rattles behind us until we face it — and why avoiding it only makes the noise louder.
• Parenting, perfection, & the myth of the “healthy family.”
Rebecca challenges the idea that some kids grow up untouched. Colm insists every family carries something — always.
• Empowering children instead of shielding them.
Colm shares a story about talking to schools and teaching kids the language of resilience.
• Rebecca’s incredible story about her daughter’s confidence breakthrough.
From hiding at the back of sports day to suddenly smashing races and tackling a gruelling 800m hill run — the evolution becomes the emotional heart of the episode.
This aftershow is raw, human, emotional, hilarious, and unpredictable — the exact chemistry that makes Not So Christian Brothers what it is.
🕒 CHAPTER TIMINGS
00:00 — The Underground Temples & the Spirit in the Future Room
Justin’s insane Damanhur story and the night COVID hit.
02:30 — Aftershow Starts: Same Parents, Different Timelines
The crew settle in.
03:30 — Colm vs Therapy: “Does it actually help?”
A raw and honest debate about grief and whether therapy works.
06:00 — The Tin Cans We Drag Through Life
Justin’s analogy for unresolved trauma and emotional weight.
10:00 — Grief, Shock, and Why No One Is Ever Ready
Colm talks openly about losing Anne.
13:00 — Sudden Death vs Expected Death: Does It Change Grief?
A deep dive into how different losses impact us.
16:00 — Children, Resilience & the Harm of Over-Shielding
How modern parenting affects mental health.
18:00 — Empowerment vs Protection in Raising Kids
Colm shares stories from Cycle Against Suicide and parenting.
20:00 — Rebecca’s Daughter Finds Her Strength
A powerful story of confidence, sport, and resilience.
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