Marriage, Mental Load & 20 Years Together — The Aftershow Takeover

This week’s Not So Christian Brothers Aftershow looks a little different… with Colm away and Terry missing in action, Rebecca and Beatrice take over the mic — with Justin looking on nervously in the corner.

Following Beatrice’s special episode, the Aftershow dives into:

• 20 years of marriage — what really makes it work
• Respect, independence, and why couples don’t need to do everything together
• The “mental load” and how women often carry the invisible weight at home
• Letting go of perfection vs. letting resentment fester
• Why laughter, communication, and even scheduled sex keep a relationship alive

💡 This one blends honesty and humour — from shoes left on the stairs to vaccum wars, household roles, and why communication beats resentment every time.

⏱️ Chapter List

00:00 – Aftershow Takeover (Rebecca & Beatrice on the couch)

02:00 – 20 Years of Marriage: What’s Changed

03:42 – Respect, Independence & Still Laughing

05:00 – Who Starts the Hard Conversations?

07:38 – Letting Go vs. Resentment

09:30 – Household Roles: The Mental Load

12:21 – Running a Family Like a Business

13:39 – Style, Clean Homes & Instagram Pressure

16:07 – Shoes on the Stairs (and Why Men Don’t See Them)

18:42 – What Men Really Think About

20:52 – When Therapy Helps (and When It’s Too Late)

21:48 – Sex, Date Nights & Laughter After 20 Years

Highlights

• “You’re not the same person you were 20 years ago — respect that evolution.”
• “The mental load is like running a corporation — except there’s no shares and no money.”
• “I used to get annoyed about the bins and the dishwasher. Now I just let it go.”
• “If resentment festers too long, it’s generally over.”
• “Laughter and respect keep a marriage alive — not the dishwasher.”

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